Yep, break ups suck! How's that for being blunt? Look I could start this article off by sugarcoating everything and being sweet, but what good will that do? Okay, to be fair, I really do understand how rough it is to be on the wrong side of a split. I know what it's like to love somebody and then having them suddenly not be a part of your life. So, with that in mind, here is some straight talk on how you can get your ex back.
The first thing you need to do is get your self-esteem back. If you have been doing everything you can think of to get your ex to just listen to you, or if you would be willing to do anything to get back together, then you are only asking for trouble. Even if your ex took you back in your current emotional state (and chances are not good when you're acting like this), they will hold the upper hand in the relationship, and that gets old fast. Besides, they would rather be with someone who is confident and sure of themselves, so build some confidence and be yourself. However, if they would be happy to take you back when you're in a fragile state, and are willing to take advantage of the situation, then my best advice is for you to run the other way. You don't deserve to be in a relationship with somebody like that.
While the two of you apart, keep living your life. It can sometimes be hard to do this, especially if you were with your ex for a long time. Either way, you need to go out and have fun with friends. Do the things you always wanted to do, but couldn't because your ex was there. Volunteer. Get a hobby. Anything to get you to experience more of what life has to offer. Oh, and whatever you do, don't feel guilty about doing any of these things. It's okay, you're broken up right now. Plus, doing these things will actually help you to get your ex back.
People are funny. You won't have to do anything but enjoy yourself, and word will get back to your ex that you're doing fine. That will either surprise your ex and make them curious...which means they may get in touch with you. Or, they will be happy to hear you're doing well, and will want to get in touch with you. But, even the worst-case scenario plays out, at least you're still having fun. What you're really doing here is hedging your bets. You win if they don't want to get back together, and you also increase your chances of them wanting to get back together.
After some time has passed (you know your ex better than I do, so this is a judgment call), and you're feeling confident and enjoying life, you can get in touch with your ex. All you want to do at this point is re-open the lines communication. So, set up a meeting where the two of you can talk, and you will be off to a good start to get your ex back.
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