Do Opposites Attract - You Bet

There was once a song that you might remember by Paula Abdul called 'Opposites Attract'. She sang this song about her and her partner and how many aspects of their personality were so completely opposite. Even though they were opposite in so many ways, they were still deeply and madly in love with each other. The video of this song made it even more obvious just how different these two really were.

This might just be a song and perhaps doesn't mean anything in that sense, but this song was written about a real couple and when Paula sang that song she was singing about the true differences between herself and her partner. Opposites really can and do attract. Although in some instances too many opposites can lead to trouble and the relationship might not work, but in other instances it works fine, it all depends on how the couple deal with their differences and how those differences affect their relationship. If the love between two people is strong enough then they can manage to deal with their differences and put lots of attention on the things that they do have in common.

For many couples they find that although they are complete opposites, those opposites often complement each other. Their differences actually make them stronger and better people when they balance each other out. For example, if one person is very laid back and doesn't really get upset over anything very often and the other partner has a real anger problem and get's quite angry over every little thing, then these two people can balance each other. The one partner who is calm and laid back will bring calmness and stability into this relationship and help the other one to calm down when they get angry. At the same time, the laid back partner may be taken advantage off quite a bit due to their laid back nature and the 'angrier' partner can also help them to not let people take advantage of them. Having completely opposite natures, although at times can have its frustrations, can also work out quite well.

Then there is always compromise if you have opposite tastes. If one partner loves romantic movies but the other loves action movies then it isn't that difficult to compromise once in a while and take turns as to what type of movie you see. You may even come across some movies that have a bit of both and you may even begin to develop a taste for the other one's favourites.

To have a good, strong relationship a couple needs to learn to balance their differences in positive ways. If the love is there then there is no reason why you can't work together to find the positives in the other person's tastes and personality. It may take some adjusting and cooperation from both partners, but it can work. There are many couples who are complete opposites but have a very loving and strong relationship. Although their differences suggest that they wouldn't be a suitable couple, because their love is so strong they make it work.

It is by combining the strengths and weaknesses of both partners and learning to accept some differences that really make the relationship work. The strong partner might become a bit mellower and the weak will become stronger and ultimately they can have the perfect relationship.