Most women at some point in their life will find themselves falling in love for a guy that doesn't love her back. It is a devastating feeling to be in love with someone when they don't return those same feelings. In fact, this experience can be one of the most painful experiences a woman will go through and at the time she will most likely feel that she will never get over it. Although the pain is incredibly bad, you will find a way to move on and get past this experience and you will have future, happier relationships.
To be able to move on from such an upsetting relationship you must decide that you WANT to move on. Unless you WANT to get over this guy and your feelings, you just won't be able to; you really need to WANT to do it. If you choose to just sit around feeling sorry for yourself you will never get past this time and you won't be able to be happy again. This is because you have made the decision to sit around and feel sorry for yourself. Think about it - is one man really worth you being miserable for the rest of your life? So think about your decision carefully and think about whether you are deciding to feel sorry for yourself or are you going to decide that you WANT to move on with your life and be happy again.
Now that you have made the decision to move on with your life and get over this guy then you can begin your recovery. The next step in the recovery process is to accept that this guy doesn't feel the same way about you and this relationship just isn't going to happen. There is a good chance that you've tried everything to try and make him love you without success. If you have tried a new hair style, change your make up style and joined a gym to get your body in great shape and he still didn't notice or didn't care then it really is time to move on, he just isn't worth it. The worst thing that can happen now is that you run in to him while he's on a date with another woman and he seems completely head-over-heels in love with her - and she isn't even as attractive as you! If this happens, don't start thinking that there must be something wrong with you but rather accept that his tastes in women just don't match what you have to offer. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you; it just means he didn't feel that connection with you.
The next step is to really FEEL your anger and your grief over this failed relationship. You need to do whatever it takes to get this anger and grief out of your system. If you feel like crying, then cry. If you want to throw things around then do it. If you want to scream, then scream. Of course you need to do these things within reason, particularly if you're throwing things around, you don't want to start throwing other people's things around! You need to grieve for the loss of a relationship just as you would grieve the loss of a loved one. You will go through a grieving process and that is all a part of healing.
When you are getting over a guy your friends will want to be there for you so make the most of them and by all means don't shut them out. This is the time in your life that you need your friends so let them help you in whatever way they can. When you're ready, go out with your friends and even let them introduce you to guys that they think will be a perfect match for you. You never know, one of them might be the perfect guy that will love you back!
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