How To Flirt With Men Without Appearing Easy

Have you ever wanted to flirt with a man but decided against it because you didn't want to appear desperate or too easy? If you have high values and beliefs then you certainly don't want to appear like you are just there to be 'picked up'. Then of course there is also the problem that some men are there simply for that reason - to pick up women just for sex. It is these men that you have to be particularly careful of because even the slightest sign of friendliness from you might be interpreted as a sign that you are looking for a one night stand. The good news is that there are some subtle ways that you can flirt with a man without giving off the impression that you are ready to jump into bed with him.

The first thing that you might want to consider is the location where you are meeting a man. Depending on the place that you are at can make a big difference to the type of men that are there and what they are looking for. For example, if you meet a man standing in line at the supermarket or sitting on a park bench, it would be fairly obvious that you’re flirting is because you find him attractive and not because you want to jump into bed with him. The more mundane locations that you meet a man the more likely it is that your interaction is one of friendliness and not one of any sexual motivation.

Then there are locations where you will need to be more cautious with your flirting. Bars and nightclubs are both places where flirting can be mistaken for something more. These sorts of places are in fact places where people often go just so they can hook up with someone for a one night stand. If you go to a bar or nightclub with other women then be prepared to have men do some serious flirting with you in the hope of 'getting lucky'. These guys aren't just looking for a bit of harmless flirting though they are looking to find a one night stand. Even if your flirting is very subtle, they will take any bit of attention as a sign that you are willing to jump into bed with them.

Once you get the hang of flirting it is quite easy to flirt with a man without looking easy. Something as simple as looking into his eyes while you give him a small smile will do wonders. This gives him a sign that you do like him. Although you may be nervous about flirting at first, when you become use to flirting it becomes more natural. Your ultimate goal of flirting is to be friendly but not 'easy' and there is a big difference between the two.

When you are flirting with a man, smiles and a bit of humour go a long way. When you use humor you are keeping the mood light and not coming across as too serious. You should always use a bit of humor when you are flirting with a guy.

You become an expert at flirting when you reach a point where it really doesn't bother you if a man returns the flirting. This is when you become such a natural at flirting that you do it naturally whenever you communicate with men. Men realize that this sort of flirting is your natural communication and they won't take it as a sign of wanting a one night stand with them. When you are confident with flirting you can flirt but still have control of the situation.