Have you recently broken up with your boyfriend? If so, then you know how hard it is to have a relationship come to an end. You probably feel, with sadness, anger, confusion and guilt all being tossed around in one big mess of emotions. It's definitely not easy. But, still, deep down inside you thinking that you want to get your ex boyfriend back.
Let's start with some good news: the vast majority of all relationships can be saved. Now, it won't be easy, and you have to be willing to do what needs to be done, but if you can do that, then you will have a very good chance of working things out with your ex boyfriend. Believing it can be done will help to motivate you if the going gets tough. In other words, mindset matters.
If you have been chasing your ex boyfriend around in the hopes of being able to talk to him, then stop. In fact, you need to cut off all contact with him, at least for a while. See, while you have good intentions and only want a chance to convince him to take you back, the truth is that he will perceive it as your pestering him...and that's not a good thing.
During your "alone time". it's important that you take care of yourself. If you're sad or depressed then you need to get over that before you can move forward. Remember, it is possible to work things out, but only if you are emotionally stable and are able to think clearly. Take care of you mental and physical health as well. After all, do you think your ex would rather have you back if you're a wreck, or if you are full of life?
Once you have settled down, the next step to get your ex boyfriend back is to figure out went wrong. This will take some doing, because you have to get to the bottom of the problems. The first things that pop into your mind will most likely be those that were on the surface. For example, arguing is a common problem, but it's usually a symptom of deeper issues. Your goal is to unearth those deeper issues.
Now that you have a good idea of what the real problems were that led to your break up, you can start working on fixing them. How you do that will depend largely upon what the problems are. Do what you can to fix the problems yourself...remember, you are still in the "no contact" stage so you won't be able to involve your ex in this process quite yet.
Okay, so far so good. After these steps are done, you can get in touch with your ex again. Set up a time and place so the two of you can talk face-to-face. Remain calm and respectful, and don't lay it on to thick during this first meeting. Do it right and there will be more such meetings to come. Congratulations! You are now on the right track to get your ex boyfriend back.
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