With the huge surge in the amount of affairs taking place in the past ten years, I'm sad to say that it's become more important than it's ever been before to learn about extramarital affairs and how you can recover from them.
In a staggering 80% of marriages one spouse or the other commits adultery. This is a fact.
The question isn't "Will my spouse cheat on me?", that's obvious. Everyone cheats (Wow, what a sad world we live in). The real question is "How can I survive an affair?".
And that's where I come in.
See, having helped hundreds of couples get through their affair with my C.A.T.C.H. affair action plan (see below), I've learned a couple things a long the way.
What I'd like to do now is talk to you about how to survive an affair, and come out stronger than before:
#1 - "I Need to Vent Sometimes"
Often when people ask me how to survive an affair, they're really just looking for a way to make all the emotion go away. But this is a bad idea.
Listen, a huge part of the healing process is getting the chance to say all the stuff going through your head. If you never get to really confront your spouse with a good old yelling match, then you're never going to get to say all the things that need to be said.
Yes, you will say overly hurtful things. Yes, you won't mean everything you say. Yes, you should still find time to vent, anyways. It's a crucial step if you're serious about learning how to survive an affair.
Just make sure that you explain to your spouse that you feel venting is an important part of the recovery process. Warn them that you may not mean everything you say, but it's important that you say it anyways
#2 - "Give Me Space"
Listen, you have some serious issues going on in your head right now. There's a flood of emotion going on that needs to be tamed before you can hope to live a normal life again.
This is going to require some alone time. You'll never really get the freedom you need to work through all the psychological problems that come from an affair if you spend all your time around your husband/wife.
Get some space! Get away for a couple days if you need to. Find someplace quiet and relaxing and clear your head.
#3 - "Always Be Predictable"
You should let your spouse know that you're going to need a solid foundation of strength and comfort if you're going to learn how to survive an affair and come out stronger. You need them to be there when you need them, and not be there when you don't.
You need to know what they're doing at all times, so that you don't have to spend time worrying about ANOTHER affair.
Bonus Tip #4 - The Secret No One Tells You
Want to know the secret answer to how to survive an affair?
It's actually quite a bit simpler than you probably think...It all comes down to having a plan. You see, by having a set of steps that you know you're going to follow, it'll be much easier to take things one step at a time. You won't become overwhelmed by the prospect of repairing your relationship all at once.
So, what plan should you follow? Well, I've had lots of success following the 3 phases to affair recovery [http://Catch-The-Affair.info]:
1. Heal Yourself
2. Heal Your Relationship
3. Heal Your Marriage
Now, it's my believe that saving your marriage should be free, which is exactly why I've taken the time to give you everything you need to fully recover from an affair and come out stronger than before...It's right here on my website:
What to Do When All Hope Seems Lost (Free) - How to Survive an Affair [http://signscheating.com/Heal.html] -
Either way you choose, thanks for reading.
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